You Want Me to Do What? A Guide to BDSM Swingers Boundaries

BDSM boundaries

A bit of role play is well within the confines of the average swingers boundaries, but even those in the BDSM lifestyle typically have some limits. That’s the whole purpose of having a ‘safe’ word, right? There might be times when you meet playmates that desire to exceed those boundaries either personally or as a couple. So, you want me to do what is a valid question. Let’s explore these situations and discuss appropriate responses from long-term swinger lifestyle couples.

Want to Hook Up with Other Couples in the Swinger Lifestyle?

This seems terribly taboo to many vanilla couples and might never enter the conversation. However, those in the swingers lifestyle can appreciate the difference that having ‘options’ can have concerning positive aspects on their relationship. This is where you will find a community of non-judgmental people who may share your fetishes. If your partner wants to explore, going with the flow can differentiate between cheating or organized pleasure.

Stepping Outside the Norm

The swinger lifestyle in and of itself is largely still considered deviant behavior, which is actually a turn on for many couples. However, there are some actions that just go beyond where you are willing to, and that is actually a good things. Whether you personally set these limits for yourself or if it’s a couple’s choice, don’t feel the need to step outside those boundaries due to pressure unless you’re willing to fully surrender to a new ‘naughty’ action.

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How Far is Too Far?

While having sex on an airplane or doing the dirty deed outdoors might not seem too taboo for those who love swinging, something like trusting someone to be careful with back door entry might be too much. Again, if you don’t like it…just say no and be comfortable with that. There’s no need to go ‘too far’ with strangers or playmates, but you might consider trying a few new things with your primary partner first. Just giving a new action a whirl can spice things up in your own bedroom.

Fantasy? Meet Reality!

This is your world to live in, and your options are only limited by your own swinger boundaries. There is simply no better existence for exploration than this realm so let your fantasy world meld with your ‘real life’ and watch your sex life blossom!

SEXUAL DISCIPLINE IN THE SWINGERS & BDSM LIFESTYLE EXPLAINED

Whether you’re into swinging, BDSM, love being punished or are a mighty dom who appreciates keeping a submissive, the concept of discipline is nothing new to you. However, those just getting into the lifestyle of submissive/dominant relationships, will appreciate this…

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Healthy Swinging Relationships & What They Should Look Like

When making the decision to sway beyond the socially accepted ‘norms’ of monogamy and explore the realm of the swinging lifestyle, newbies can find it challenging staying healthy as a couple if not well prepared. Let’s explore what sane and lasting swinging relationships seem to have in common. Follow Established Rules Clearly, you’ve already had … Continue reading Healthy Swinging Relationships & What They Should Look Like→

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