How To Politely Turn Down A Swinger Couple in The Lifestyle

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You’re bound to meet a lot of eager companions in the lifestyle, whether you’re a swinger couple or a free-flying unicorn. Naturally, not all potential hookups will be to your particular taste or into what you are.

This means that some offers will need to be declined. You won’t gain a stellar reputation in the lifestyle community by burning bridges with blazing rejections or getting caught lying.

Being nice when rejecting them reaps better karma and you don’t look like a jackass, either. These tips for politely rejecting a swinger couple leave all parties ‘in the know’ without the lingering bad taste that results from hurt feelings.

Considerately and Honestly Acknowledge the Opportunity

The facts are that even a smoking hot swingers couple faces rejection at some point during their explorations of the lifestyle. The language used when declining the offer are just as vital as being honest—yet considerate. Some key points:

  • Let the outreaching swingers couple know you got the message.
  • Avoid blaming and shaming them when politely declining their offer. What you don’t like someone else craves and adores!
  • Be honest that there’s no attraction, four way connection, or that their preferences are beyond your boundary zone rather than lying. Liars get caught, and swingers communities rely on trust. Reputations can get ruined quickly.

Dole Out Other Suggestions for Friendship

No, definitely DON’T dole out friend’s names without permission—party foul! What we suggest is counter offering with a situation you’d feel comfortable with. Consider redefining your boundaries a bit if that’s the issue.

Maybe the timing is bad and you need to hold off for a while but are interested. Sometimes a proposition can lead to enduring friendships. Whatever, the case be open and honest with viable alternatives.

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Leave No Room for Miscommunication

Partners need to be in agreement as to why they are rejecting a swingers couple proposition. Within that unity, it is easier to grasp polite ways to respond, as the two of you can get the point across much more clearly than approaching the issues as individuals.

Don’t beat around the bush with the swinger couple you’re rejecting. If there are specific reasons, share them. It might be that you’re not into penetrative sex right now, but might not mind some sexy make out or foreplay sessions. If it will NEVER happen, say so, but if there’s potential in the future, it’s okay to leave them with some home.

Don’t Be Afraid to Use a Bit of Humor

Sometimes a sticky situation can be glossed over with some tasteful, well-timed humor. No one likes rejection, and making light of the situation with a joke—even if it’s at your own expense—can ease the discomfort. Fortunately, most people experienced in the lifestyle don’t take rejection too personally when its approached with some compassion, honesty and backed with emotionally intelligent humor and style.

The bottom line is, you and your partner don’t owe anyone sexy time, so free yourself with class with these easy rejection tips for undesired swinger couple propositions.

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