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Closet Swingers or Closet Freaks

Posted on February 14, 2012 by swingerlifestyleadmin

My wife and I were looking for a way to characterize our swinger obsession and finally rested on closet swingers. In order to understand what this means as it relates to us, I will start by telling you how we met and how we came to where we are today. One night while hanging out with the Fellas at a club, I saw this beautiful girl, now my wife. She was 5 feet 7 inches and wearing a little black dress that showed off her body. I was mesmerized from that moment I laid eyes on her. As I mustered up the courage to go over and talk to her, my heart began racing. This girl was perfect for me in every way.

I approached her and introduced myself as Dwayne and reached out my hand to shake hers, she responded “I’m Trina and please to meet you”. Before we knew it, we were talking and dancing and drinking the night away. Needless to say, we exchanged numbers and before we knew it, we were dating and talking about settling down. It was as if it was love at first sight everything seemed to click right off the bat.

One day while at worked, I reached for my phone and sent her a quick text letting her know that I was thinking about her and she immediately texted back saying ditto along with a sexy half naked picture of herself. Aroused by her pic, I quickly replied that I couldn’t wait to see later and was hoping we could explore her wild side. She replied back saying she that she couldn’t wait and that she was looking forward to it. That night we made love for the very first time. For once in my life everything clicked and I was in the right place and the right relationship.

One day while at work, I gave her a call and asked if she would like to try something new and go to a strip club with me. She paused and for that split second I thought to myself, what have I done, thinking that I just got myself in a whole lot of trouble. I was rather relieved when she said yes, she would love to go. We made plans for the weekend and visited one of our local strip joints. Needless to say we had a blast. This was the first of many, just doing something outside the norm. We sipped on our martini’s enjoyed lap dances together. That night, we got so turned on, we f”cked like there was no tomorrow. It was full of emotion and raw animal instincts. We started to explore more with our sexuality and worked our way up to visit our local swinger clubs mostly just to watch. The first time we didn’t know what to expect. It was interesting, exotic, educational and inspiring all at the same time. We visited the various theme rooms and watch on as guys and girls were having fun and letting it all hang out. That night, we went home and did some role playing of our own. We tried moves and techniques we saw and vowed to continue living the lifestyle. We always try and go whenever we can mostly to watch, maybe spice things up and to keep things fresh. Needless to say that we are now happily married with two kids both conceived after having great sex from visiting our local swinger hangout. We have not as yet come full circle with the lifestyle but we are gradually working on getting there. I will keep you updated when we do decide to break out of the closet.

Swinging Ps and Qs

Posted on February 6, 2012 by swingerlifestyleadmin

People who are curious about joining the swinging lifestyle always ask, “Do I have to have sex if I attend one of these events” and of course the answer is always NO. They are also concerned about showing off their body in public and well, being rejected. Well, I get to tell that, that open minded people in the lifestyle is not hung up on body image. They don’t what your body type is, as long as you are confident and rejection happens in any club setting, but is how you deal with that reject that makes you the bigger person.

Overcoming rejection in a swingers club is the same as if you were out at a regular night club. A single girl at a night club or a unicorn at a swinger’s event will be approached by a few different suitors for the night. There are the touchy feely types, the stalkers that won’t leave you alone for the night and then there are some that will not take no for an answer. No always mean No. There is a great article in the new edition of LifeStyle Magazine that actually sheds light on “Swing Etiquette – Dealing with Rejection in Public”. I would suggest that newbies and even some veterans familiarize themselves with such customs.

There are a few rules to keep in mind. If you are approached by someone and you’re not interested, a polite but firm “Thank you, but no thanks” should do the trick. If the person still persists then a firm “No” should give him the idea. Some women may use “Not right now” or “Maybe Later” when they don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings, and that person may take it literally and continue to bother you. If you are being harassed to the point where you feel uncomfortable and they person just doesn’t want to leave you alone, bring it to the attention of security, a staff member or the host of that event. They can then take the proper steps to make sure you feel comfortable and are able to enjoy your time at their event. Download your free copy of the swingers publication LifeStyle Magazine and read more on “Dealing with Rejection”.

How It All Started

Posted on January 12, 2012 by swingerlifestyleadmin

Hi my name is Joe and I’m 6 foot 1 inches, a single male that became enthusiastically involved in the swinger lifestyle. I read the blog post about couples and their first times, so I thought that I would tell my story of how it all started for me. I thought I would tell it from a single guy’s perspective. I got introduced to the life style through a girl I started dating name Jasmine. She was 5 foot 4 and gorgeous. She turned me out and onto the lifestyle and I have experienced things most folks would think of as taboo. We met through a mutual friend that thought we would be perfect for each other. We both were just getting over a relationship that lasted a few years.

One day she invited me out to a party, but I had no clue that it would be a swinger’s party. That’s the night that I got turned out and broken in. She blind folded me at the door before we entered the club. She took me by the hand and led me into the party to one of the bondage rooms. Just before she took my blind fold off she told me to have an open mind. As the blind fold came off I saw couples making out and getting it on. Jasmine took me by the hand and led me over to this couple and before I knew it we were making out and one thing led to another. I must say it was fun and exciting I have never felt more alive.

Now you may ask what does that have to do with now. Well I owe it all to Jasmine for introducing me to the lifestyle, I have never felt more alive and secure in my current relationship and I feel that it is because of my experiences in the lifestyle. I am currently married and still living the swinging lifestyle with my wife, who I met on a swingers dating website. We routinely attend swinger parties and events and have connected and played with some interesting people.

Passion Parties

Posted on January 4, 2012 by swingerlifestyleadmin

I received an invite for a passion party from a friend of mine in the lifestyle. I always receive invitations to sex toy parties like these, but have never really attended one. She promised that it would be intriguing and could help replenish my fun box that I have at home. A sex toy party I said, as I accepted and sent my RSVP. A Swingers Only Party for Couples & Singles was what the invite read. It also stated that no alcohol was being served, but you could BYOB. I guess it’s more fun if couple’s attend the party together and that way, they can use the guys for demonstrations. I had no idea what to expect, but I was going with an open mind.

I arrived at her house and she had everything on display. I could tell that she really thought this through. Everything was done tastefully and was well displayed. There were different kinds of vibrators, dildos, lubes, games, anal toys, chains, whips even men toys and a whole lot more. Some of them were new to me, and I had no idea what they were or how I go about using them, but I intended to find out. At the beginning of the party, she handed everyone a pack of candy. There were 10 candies of different flavors in the bag. She went on to explain that we will be playing a game. She will come up with 10 sexual things beginning with “I Have Never” and if you have never, done such a thing; you were to eat a candy. The person with the most candies at the end won a game and got to pick a toy of their choice from the gift box. This was a great ice breaker because while going through the 10 sexual things, everyone started laughing and talking, getting to know each other and that really got the party started. As she move through each display there were live demonstrations and even tips on how you could use them with your partner. She also took volunteers from the guests that were in the audience, so it kept everyone engaged.

I saw other ladies playing with the toys and having fun, so I figured that it was time for me to find a product that would peek my interest. I waited as she went through each one until I found the perfect one for me. I liked the edible body paint game and thought that could be a creative way to get the juices flowing. I also had my eye on the rabbit vibrator, which seem to be very popular with the ladies and included an added benefit from the regular vibrators, the clit stimulator. I strongly recommend that every woman purchase a rabbit. They even had toys for men. There were boxes full of erection enhancers, extensions, vibrators and tons of cockrings in all colors, shapes and sizes. In the end, I ended up purchasing the adult paint game, the rabbit and a cock ring for my honey. The whole experience was very interesting and I am thinking about going to a couple more before I host my own.

Swinger Couples – Top 20 New Years Resolutions

Posted on December 29, 2011 by swingerlifestyleadmin

Spend more time with family.
Try to remember couples by name instead of their username/email address.
Meet at least 2 new swinging couples.
Attend more lifestyle events to connect with others in the lifestyle.
Have twice the sex as last year.
Drink less alcohol and more water.
Continue to make my wife/husband feel like the most important person in the world.
Gain more confidence at swinger parties when it comes to asking people to play.
Live life to the fullest and without fear, life is too short.
Adopt a healthier swinging lifestyle (See Healthy Swinging).
Do everyone we can.
Give more oral sex to the hubby.
Lose a couple pounds (on every list).
Work out at least 3 times per week.
Avoid a divorce/breakup.
No New Year’s resolutions.
Have more hot tub parties.
To give more orgasm than is received.
Continue making mistakes while learning from them and moving forward.
Save enough money to attend International Swingers Day (ISD) (see video below).

What’s your new years resolution?

A Swinging Couple’s First Threesome

Posted on December 23, 2011 by swingerlifestyleadmin

My name is Lola and I am 35 years old with long red hair and thick thighs. My boyfriend’s name is Anthony and we have been playing in the lifestyle for quite some time now. Anthony and I have been together for over 7 years and we both tend to stay in great shape. I am 5’3 and weigh 125 pounds and he stands at 6’1 with a slender build.

We went out one night to a club with some friends and there were two beautiful women on the dance floor making out. I know he was getting turned on by the ladies, because as I slid my hands toward his groin area, I could feel him getting hard. We have had a few conversations about threesomes, but have never actually carried it out. We were still debating back and forth whether to have a MMF (male, male, female) or FFM (female, female, male) experience. I knew that he was aroused by seeing two women make out because this is something he has wanted me to try for some time now. However, I was more interested in experiencing another man while Anthony wanted another female.

One evening, I came home from having drinks with the girls and Anthony was home with his friend Steven. Steven is a long time college friend that lives out of town. He was in town this weekend for a fundraiser event that his company was sponsoring, so they were home drinking and catching up. Steven is 5’9 with an athletic build, not too muscular, but just right. I said Hi and joined in the conversation while sipping on a glass of wine. I am not sure if it was the wine, but I started to get real flirty with Steven. We have been in the lifestyle and have gone over our rules, so Anthony got the hint that this was something I may want to try. I asked them if they wanted to join me in the poll for a swim and they both agreed. Anthony went to the kitchen to get some more wine, while I went to my room to change into my 2 piece bikini suit.

I joined them in the pool and as Anthony handed me a glass of wine, I could feel Steven’s eyes watching me as I slip in between the two of them. I felt Anthony hand on my knee and as I looked into his eyes, I could see the smile on his face. I leaned forward and kissed him and then Steven. Steven’s hands were now rubbing my inner thighs and I could feel the juices flowing. At that time, I couldn’t believe that I was actually doing, but I soon erase the thought from my mind and embraced it. By now there was no stopping it. Both their hands were all over my body and I kept getting more and more aroused by the idea of taking these two. I undressed for them and Anthony took my hand and led me back to the house and into the room, with Steven following behind. We climbed into bed, where I was positioned in the middle of Anthony and Steve. They started to kiss my nipples and rubbing me all over. I started sucking off Anthony while Steve was busy sucking me and then the roles got reversed. I opened my legs and positioned myself for a double penetration as they slowly slid inside. We spent the rest of the night licking, sucking and f’cking. Ever since then, when Steve is in town, we have a ménage à trois. Anthony and I have since discussed a FFM ménage à trois and hopefully I will have a follow up to my story real soon.

Swingers Profile Pictures Tips & Tricks

Posted on December 14, 2011 by swingerlifestyleadmin

Here are 10 tips to keep in mind when taking pictures for your online swingers dating profile.

Emphasize your positives by focusing on your best assets.
A tidy surrounding will make for a better photo.
Try different angles, positioning your camera at a high or low angle can make for a better photograph.
Try not to slouch in your photos; simply changing your position or holding your back upright can make for a more appealing photograph.
Cluttered areas take away from your photo.
Be creative and experiment with new things. Holding a pair of sunglasses in front of your lens will create a more interesting look.
Lie on your back or position your lamp differently to avoid embarrassing shots.
Indoor and outdoor lighting is a factor to consider when taking your photos. Outdoor lighting and indoor lighting from a couple of lamps can produce better quality photos.
Leave some things to the imagination; a seductive photo invites the person on the other end into your fantasy.
You don’t have to lay it all out to be sexy and appealing to the person viewing the photo. The anticipation is what makes the photo exciting, so a subtle glimpse is far more erotic than a gynecological exam.

ISD 2012 Swinger Wives Calendar Contest

Posted on December 9, 2011 by swingerlifestyleadmin

International Swingers Day (ISD) has teamed up with Topless Travel and LifeStyle Magazine to bring you the first annual Lifestyle Babe Calendar Contest. The contest began on November 17, 2011 and will end at midnight on March 28, 2012. They are looking for hot swinger wives and unicorns to pose for their 2013 Lifestyle Babes’ Calendar, so ladies if you have ever dreamed about posing for Playboy or a Sexy Pinup, here’s your chance.

The grand prize winner will receive $1,000 in cash and a complimentary resort stay for two at the next International Swingers’ Day Convention in 2013. The cover of the Life Style Babes’ Calendar 2013 and also appear on the calendar page International Swingers’ Day.

To enter:

Contestants must be able to attend ISD in the Dominican Republic from August 8 – 12 2012.
Email a clear full body photo. (Along with the full body shot, please include a close up face shot for verification purposes.) Nudity is acceptable.
A brief bio (see requirements)
A letter stating why you should be considered a contestant.

Submit information to mari@internationalswingersday.com. Include your name, phone number and email address in your correspondence.

Twelve (12) contestants will be selected as finalists. These 12 contestants will be notified by April 6, 2012. They will then participate in a professional photo shoot on the resort grounds during the convention. One winner will then be selected to grace the cover of the Life Style Babes’ Calendar 2013.

All finalists will need to sign a model release document that gives LifeStyle Magazine and TopLess Travel permission to publish their photos.

Drinks With St. Nick

Posted on December 1, 2011 by swingerlifestyleadmin

So Thanksgiving is over and the Christmas holiday season has begun. Most of you will be attending swinger parties, resorts or even conventions, while some will stay home to celebrate with their significant other and guests. During this beautiful holiday season, there are a few lifestyle libations you might want to try. We have compiled a list of the best swinger drinks you can enjoy at home or at that swinger event. Here are a few fan faves.

Swingerita

1 ½ oz. Tequila
1 ½ oz. Blue Curacao
1 oz. Sweet Lime Juice

This drink can be served on the rocks or frozen, in a cocktail glass or a margarita glass. Take a trip to Mexico with the Swingerita, it’s the original Mexican drink.

Towel Shark

½ oz. Southern Comfort
½ oz. White Chocolate Liqueur

This drink should be served as a shot! Towel Sharks are usually sported by the predators of the clubs, lurking around in the dark wearing white towels; best believe he is on the prowl.

Lifestyle Lemonade

1 oz. Rum
1 oz. Vodka
2 oz. Sweet & Sour Mix
7-up to taste

This drink is served on the rocks in a Collins glass. Feeling hot and thirsty, lifestyle lemonade is the anytime drink, day or night, it will make your lips pucker.

Bi – 69

1oz. Kahlua
1 oz. Irish Cream
½ oz. Grand Marnier

This drink is served over ice in an old fashioned glass. If you like Bailey’s you will enjoy the Bi-69. Creamy, tasty, soft and wet, close your eyes and imagine the most seductive time in your life. Bi-69 is all the fantasies you will need in a glass.

Happy Holidays!!

10 Sex Quotes – Swinger Humor

Posted on November 25, 2011 by swingerlifestyleadmin

“You know “that look” women get when they want sex? Me neither.” - Steve Martin
“Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.” - Woody Allen
“Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.” - Rodney Dangerfield
“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.” - George Burns
“Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.” – Woody Allen
“According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful. “- Robert De Niro
“Don’t knock masturbation – It’s sex with someone I love.” – Woody Allen
“Sex is emotion in motion.” – Mae West
“My wife wants sex in the back of the car and she wants me to drive.” – Rodney Dangerfield
“Some things are better than sex, and some are worse, but there’s nothing exactly like it.” W. C. Fields