Swinging Ps and Qs

Swinging Ps and QsPeople who are curious about joining the swinging lifestyle always ask, “Do I have to have sex if I attend one of these events” and of course the answer is always NO.  They are also concerned about showing off their body in public and well, being rejected.  Well, I get to tell that, that open minded people in the lifestyle is not hung up on body image.  They don’t what your body type is, as long as you are confident and rejection happens in any club setting, but is how you deal with that reject that makes you the bigger person.

Overcoming rejection in a swingers club is the same as if you were out at a regular night club.  A single girl at a night club or a unicorn at a swinger’s event will be approached by a few different suitors for the night.  There are the touchy feely types, the stalkers that won’t leave you alone for the night and then there are some that will not take no for an answer.   No always mean No.  There is a great article in the new edition of LifeStyle Magazine that actually sheds light on “Swing Etiquette – Dealing with Rejection in Public”.   I would suggest that newbies and even some veterans familiarize themselves with such customs.

There are a few rules to keep in mind.  If you are approached by someone and you’re not interested, a polite but firm “Thank you, but no thanks” should do the trick.  If the person still persists then a firm “No” should give him the idea.  Some women may use “Not right now” or “Maybe Later” when they don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings, and that person may take it literally and continue to bother you.  If you are being harassed to the point where you feel uncomfortable and they person just doesn’t want to leave you alone, bring it to the attention of security, a staff member or the host of that event.  They can then take the proper steps to make sure you feel comfortable and are able to enjoy your time at their event.  Download your free copy of the swingers publication LifeStyle Magazine and read more on “Dealing with Rejection”.

Passion Parties

I received an invite for a passion party from a friend of mine in the lifestyle.  I always receive invitations to sex toy parties like these, but have never really attended one.   She promised that it would be intriguing and could help replenish my fun box that I have at home.  A sex toy party I said, as I accepted and sent my RSVP.  A Swingers Only Party for Couples & Singles was what the invite read.  It also stated that no alcohol was being served, but you could BYOB.  I guess it’s more fun if couple’s attend the party together and that way, they can use the guys for demonstrations.  I had no idea what to expect, but I was going with an open mind.

Passion Parties - Edible Body PaintI arrived at her house and she had everything on display.  I could tell that she really thought this through. Everything was done tastefully and was well displayed.  There were different kinds of vibrators, dildos, lubes, games, anal toys, chains, whips even men toys and a whole lot more.  Some of them were new to me, and I had no idea what they were or how I go about using them, but I intended to find out.  At the beginning of the party, she handed everyone a pack of candy.  There were 10 candies of different flavors in the bag.  She went on to explain that we will be playing a game.  She will come up with 10 sexual things beginning with “I Have Never” and if you have never, done such a thing; you were to eat a candy.  The person with the most candies at the end won a game and got to pick a toy of their choice from the gift box.  This was a great ice breaker because while going through the 10 sexual things, everyone started laughing and talking, getting to know each other and that really got the party started.  As she move through each display there were live demonstrations and even tips on how you could use them with your partner.  She also took volunteers from the guests that were in the audience, so it kept everyone engaged.

Passion Parties - Rabbit VibratorI saw other ladies playing with the toys and having fun, so I figured that it was time for me to find a product that would peek my interest. I waited as she went through each one until I found the perfect one for me.  I liked the edible body paint game and thought that could be a creative way to get the juices flowing.  I also had my eye on the rabbit vibrator, which seem to be very popular with the ladies and included an added benefit from the regular vibrators, the clit stimulator.  I strongly recommend that every woman purchase a rabbit. They even had toys for men.  There were boxes full of erection enhancers, extensions, vibrators and tons of cockrings in all colors, shapes and sizes.  In the end, I ended up purchasing the adult paint game, the rabbit and a cock ring for my honey.  The whole experience was very interesting and I am thinking about going to a couple more before I host my own.

Swinger Couples – Top 20 New Years Resolutions

  1. Spend more time with family.
  2. Try to remember couples by name instead of their username/email address.
  3. Meet at least 2 new swinging couples.
  4. Attend more lifestyle events to connect with others in the lifestyle.
  5. Have twice the sex as last year.
  6. Drink less alcohol and more water.
  7. Continue to make my wife/husband feel like the most important person in the world.
  8. Gain more confidence at swinger parties when it comes to asking people to play.
  9. Live life to the fullest and without fear, life is too short.
  10. Adopt a healthier swinging lifestyle (See Healthy Swinging).
  11. Do everyone we can.
  12. Give more oral sex to the hubby.
  13. Lose a couple pounds (on every list).
  14. Work out at least 3 times per week.
  15. Avoid a divorce/breakup.
  16. No New Year’s resolutions.
  17. Have more hot tub parties.
  18. To give more orgasm than is received.
  19. Continue making mistakes while learning from them and moving forward.
  20. Save enough money to attend International Swingers Day (ISD) (see video below).

What’s your new years resolution?

Swingers Profile Pictures Tips & Tricks

Here are 10 tips to keep in mind when taking pictures for your online swingers dating profile.

  • Emphasize your positives by focusing on your best assets.
  • A tidy surrounding will make for a better photo.
  • Try different angles, positioning your camera at a high or low angle can make for a better photograph.
  •  Try not to slouch in your photos; simply changing your position or holding your back upright can make for a more appealing photograph.
  • Cluttered areas take away from your photo.
  • Be creative and experiment with new things.  Holding a pair of sunglasses in front of your lens will create a more interesting look.
  • Lie on your back or position your lamp differently to avoid embarrassing shots.
  • Indoor and outdoor lighting is a factor to consider when taking your photos.  Outdoor lighting and indoor lighting from a couple of lamps can produce better quality photos.
  • Leave some things to the imagination; a seductive photo invites the person on the other end into your fantasy.
  • You don’t have to lay it all out to be sexy and appealing to the person viewing the photo.  The anticipation is what makes the photo exciting, so a subtle glimpse is far more erotic than a gynecological exam.

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ISD 2012 Swinger Wives Calendar Contest

Lifestyle Babes Calendar ContestInternational Swingers Day (ISD) has teamed up with Topless Travel and LifeStyle Magazine to bring you the first annual Lifestyle Babe Calendar Contest.  The contest began on November 17, 2011 and will end at midnight on March 28, 2012.  They are looking for hot swinger wives and unicorns to pose for their 2013 Lifestyle Babes’ Calendar, so ladies if you have ever dreamed about posing for Playboy or a Sexy Pinup, here’s your chance.

The grand prize winner will receive $1,000 in cash and a complimentary resort stay for two at the next International Swingers’ Day Convention in 2013.  The cover of the Life Style Babes’ Calendar 2013 and also appear on the calendar page International Swingers’ Day.

To enter:

  1. Contestants must be able to attend ISD in the Dominican Republic from August 8 – 12 2012.
  2. Email a clear full body photo. (Along with the full body shot, please include a close up face shot for verification purposes.)  Nudity is acceptable.
  3. A brief bio (see requirements)
  4. A letter stating why you should be considered a contestant.

Submit information to mari@internationalswingersday.com.  Include your name, phone number and email address in your correspondence.

Twelve (12) contestants will be selected as finalists.  These 12 contestants will be notified by April 6, 2012.  They will then participate in a professional photo shoot on the resort grounds during the convention.  One winner will then be selected to grace the cover of the Life Style Babes’ Calendar 2013.

All finalists will need to sign a model release document that gives LifeStyle Magazine and TopLess Travel permission to publish their photos.

Drinks With St. Nick

Drinks With St. Nick So Thanksgiving is over and the Christmas holiday season has begun.  Most of you will be attending swinger parties, resorts or even conventions, while some will stay home to celebrate with their significant other and guests.   During this beautiful holiday season, there are a few lifestyle libations you might want to try.  We have compiled a list of the best swinger drinks you can enjoy at home or at that swinger event.  Here are a few fan faves.

Swingerita

  • 1 ½ oz. Tequila
  • 1 ½ oz. Blue Curacao
  • 1 oz. Sweet Lime Juice

This drink can be served on the rocks or frozen, in a cocktail glass or a margarita glass.  Take a trip to Mexico with the Swingerita, it’s the original Mexican drink.

Towel Shark

  • ½ oz. Southern Comfort
  • ½ oz. White Chocolate Liqueur

This drink should be served as a shot!  Towel Sharks are usually sported by the predators of the clubs, lurking around in the dark wearing white towels; best believe he is on the prowl.

Lifestyle Lemonade

  • 1 oz. Rum
  • 1 oz. Vodka
  • 2 oz. Sweet & Sour Mix
  • 7-up to taste

This drink is served on the rocks in a Collins glass.  Feeling hot and thirsty, lifestyle lemonade is the anytime drink, day or night, it will make your lips pucker.

Bi – 69

  • 1oz. Kahlua
  • 1 oz. Irish Cream
  • ½ oz. Grand Marnier

This drink is served over ice in an old fashioned glass.  If you like Bailey’s you will enjoy the Bi-69.  Creamy, tasty, soft and wet, close your eyes and imagine the most seductive time in your life.  Bi-69 is all the fantasies you will need in a glass.

Happy Holidays!!

10 Sex Quotes – Swinger Humor

  • “You know “that look” women get when they want sex?  Me neither.”   -  Steve Martin10 Sex Quotes - Swinger Humor
  • “Remember, if you smoke after sex you’re doing it too fast.”  -  Woody Allen
  • “Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.”  -  Rodney Dangerfield
  • “Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation.  The other eight are unimportant.”  -  George Burns
  • “Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.”  – Woody Allen
  • “According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women.  They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful. “- Robert De Niro
  • “Don’t knock masturbation – It’s sex with someone I love.”  – Woody Allen
  • “Sex is emotion in motion.”  – Mae West
  • “My wife wants sex in the back of the car and she wants me to drive.”  – Rodney Dangerfield
  • “Some things are better than sex, and some are worse, but there’s nothing exactly like it.”  W. C. Fields

11 Sex Tips for Swinging Couples

      • Sex Tips for Swinging Couples Once in a while some women like it rough.  Take her with a little force, pull her close, rip off her clothes and do it cave man style.
      • Some say morning sex is the best sex.  Ladies, if you wake up before your man, give him an oral surprise.  You might be late for work, but you will have that pep in your step you get from having great sex.
      • Alternate using your hand and mouth for oral sex.  Depending on his size, stimulating the shaft as well as the head can make all the difference and you won’t get as tired.
      • Men, if you want your ladies to swallow, read up on Tips To Make Your Semen Taste Sweet.  Studies have shown that pineapples tend to make your semen taste better.
      • Ladies, surprise your man by removing all your pubic hair completely.  Revealing a groomed undercarriage will leave him hypnotized.
      • Ladies, having sex is a great way to burn calories and it does wonders for the body and mind.  Check Out How To Burn Calories with Sex Positions.  Missionary positions burns 21 calories, but an orgy let you burn 75 calories.Sex Tips for Swinging Couples
      • Ladies, whether you are married or not, never get too comfortable with your man.  Continue to dress sexy for bed.  Whether you wearing sexy lingerie or even a tank top and sexy panties, always be ready for your man.
      • Men, move your entire body up about two inches.  Your pubic bone will rest on top of hers so that the base of your penis presses on her clit.  This position provides continuous stimulation of her clitoris during intercourse.
      • Ladies, don’t be afraid to touch yourself.
      • Have Vacation Sex.  Haven’t been on a vacation in a while?  Check out Sex Tips for Swinging Couples International Swingers Day, a swinger’s holiday and lifestyle convention, happening at the beautiful Resort Caliente Caribe in the Dominican Republic.
      • Ladies give your man a full body massage.

The Latest Swingers Magazine Issue Now Online

The Fall 2011 edition of LifeStyle Magazine is now available online.  You can access the new edition with just one click of the mouse.  Get caught up on what going on in the lifestyle by accessing our past Fall and Winter publications.   LifeStyle Magazine Fall 2011

The new edition covers the best advice on swinging relationships, health and dating in the lifestyle.  Have you ever been on a swinger’s vacation or visited a lifestyle convention?  This is the best time to experience what the lifestyle has to offer.  The magazine covers hot destination spots like Hedonism, Desire and Caliente Caribe, which are great for adult swinger’s vacations.   Read about the swinger’s holiday and lifestyle convention happening at Caliente Caribe and hosted by Topless Travel.  View photos of SwingLifestyle 10th Anniversary celebration along with other lifestyle conventions pics from Naughty in N’awlins.

The magazine focuses on promoting a healthy swinging lifestyle with articles such as “You Are What You Eat” and “Healthy Swinging”.  They even shine light on the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), which is a national organization committed to equal rights of consenting adults who practice alternative sexual expressions.

Visit LifeStyle Magazine website for more information.

On and Off Premise Swingers Club

Swinger Magazine - On Premise Swingers Club An on-premise swingers club is known in the lifestyle as a place where couples can get together and engage in intimate behaviors.  Most on-premise clubs have themed rooms which are areas designated for sexual play.  If you’re new to the lifestyle, think about visiting an off premise club first.  There is no sex allowed at an off premise club, but you will be able to connect with other like-minded couples in the lifestyle and have fun.  Themed rooms can also be found at many lifestyle resorts, conventions and on cruises. Veterans of the lifestyle can seek heighten pleasure by visiting one of the themed rooms listed below:

The Red Light Room is for couples into voyeurism.  Watch or be watched, this is often Red light Room at On Premise Club encouraged as it enhances the experience of those being watched.

The Pink Room is for ladies only, no men allowed, so if you are bi-curious or want to experience sex with another woman, this is the room to visit.

The Dark Room is a pitch black room where anything goes.  Once inside, it’s hard to see anything, but you can touch, lick, suck etc what you feel like in this room.  If you have homophobic tendencies, you may want to stay away from this room, as you may encounter your first male on male experience.

The Sybian Room - On Premise Swingers ClubThe Sybian Room is a room where they mount a vibrator, usually bigger than the standard size; it is then used to produce orgasm.   You may want to take one home with you.

The Tantra Room is a room where couples can experience the art of love making without climax.  Some couples actually enjoy this room, give it a try and decide.

The Oral Room or the soft swap room is for couples not yet ready to do a full swap, but would like to play with other couples.

Pick up a copy of the swingers magazine for more on themed rooms at on-premise clubs.